Kinky sex is good for couples!

New Scientist magazine has reported how indulging in a little kinky fun can bring you and your partner closer together but first of all, you need to set up a sexy scenario... Do you want to have power or relinquish it in the bedroom? Talk to your partner and decide which role you want to try. Squirming submissives are released from all responsibility and the dominant will stop at nothing to possess you – it may even involve being obedient or humiliated! You may have to give an erotic massage, strip, run a bath for your 'master' and dry them off afterwards, be ordered to be a sex slave, made to perform oral sex on demand, rub their feet or clean the house naked! As a bossy-boots dominant, you call the shots. It's up to you to set the scene, keep things going – calm the down or hype them up. You get to be selfish, cruel and superior without getting into trouble! It's usually the most confident person who assumes this role, but if you're not, give it a try - it can make you more confident in real life. Work out what you would like to do in your sinful scenario by planning it with your partner first. Think suspense: doing things the submissive isn't expecting. Punctuate a stern telling off or spank with kind, cuddly stuff. Change locations when the least expect it. Break up sexual play with psychological games: give them an intense oral experience, then order them to do the dishes. Think stern governess who spanks a naughty schoolboy; the King with a subject who needs punishing; the slave held captive by a cruel captor. Written by Tracey Cox